Tag: Healing

Living Out Our Pain

A Devotional Reflection

There are moments when we react to something small… and later realize it wasn’t so small after all.

Maybe someone’s words felt sharper than they intended.
Maybe you felt overlooked, rejected, or misunderstood.
Maybe jealousy, insecurity, or defensiveness rose up before you could stop it.

Often, what we are reacting to in the present is connected to something unresolved in our past.

Pain has a way of following us when it hasn’t been healed. It quietly influences our relationships, our confidence, our decision-making, and even how we interpret other people’s intentions. Without realizing it, we can begin living out old wounds in real time.

Think about the experiences that shaped you.

Was it harsh words that replay in your mind like a broken record?
Was it bullying or rejection that made you question your worth?
Was it betrayal, abandonment, divorce, or infidelity that left you feeling like you were not enough?
Was it growing up in instability, addiction, or emotional neglect?

These moments leave impressions. And unless we confront them, they can grow into patterns—fear, anger, unforgiveness, comparison, jealousy, and insecurity.

But here is the hope: what wounded you does not have to rule you.

Scripture gently reminds us:

Isaiah 43:18–19
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?”

God is not dismissing your pain. He is inviting you forward.

Philippians 3:13–14
“…Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal…”

Healing requires intention. It requires humility—the willingness to say, “Maybe my reaction is coming from somewhere deeper.” It requires surrendering courage to release bitterness, comparison, and the belief that we are somehow not enough.

Psalm 147:3
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

Notice that He doesn’t shame the brokenhearted. He heals them.

We cannot change what happened to us. But we can decide whether we will continue to let it shape how we love, how we trust, and how we see ourselves.

When we choose to examine our wounds instead of ignoring them, cycles begin to break. Compassion grows. Reactions soften. Freedom begins.

Our past may explain us—but it does not have to define us.

The question is: Will we allow God to heal what we’ve been unconsciously living out?

Reflection Questions

  • What situations tend to trigger strong emotional reactions in me?
  • Can I trace those reactions back to a specific experience or season?
  • Is there unforgiveness, insecurity, or fear I need to surrender?
  • What would it look like to respond from healing instead of hurt?

A Prayer

Lord,
You see the places in my heart that still ache. You know the words that wounded me, the moments that shaped me, and the memories I still carry. Help me to recognize when I am reacting from old pain instead of present truth. Give me the courage to confront what I’ve avoided and the strength to release what I’ve held onto. Heal what is broken in me. Break cycles that no longer serve Your purpose in my life. Teach me to live from wholeness, not from hurt.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Unlocking Emotions: The Power of Writing for Wellness

Hi,
My name is Norma, welcome to my page

There are times in life when we go through things that we don’t feel like we can share with anyone. Maybe for some it’s out of fear of being misunderstood, or being seen as weak, or just not being supported.

There were many times as I child where I would just write to release my thoughts, to get things off my chest, to calm myself when dealing with unpleasant situations. I would always keep my writings to myself, it was a form of therapy, a form of release sort of speak..

I started this blog in hopes to help someone that may need to release something that may be causing pain, holding them back or preventing them from healing. In writing things down even as I child, my love of writing, and putting pen to paper has helped me throughout the years, to process thoughts, to put things into perspective, to heal, to release, to vent and to cope, all while creating a space for change.

Although this may not be for everyone, I believe that God has given us all gifts and talents, even if we don’t always realize what they are or how we are meant to use them.

What are your thoughts?

How have some of you found ways to cope in difficult situations?

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Breaking Generational Curses Through Honest Conversations

I was thinking a lot about healing recently, not only physical healing but emotional healing as well. The lack of emotional healing that can result in physical illness.

I thought of all the ways that we oftentimes keep things inside, pushing it to the back of our minds in hopes that it will somehow just magically go away. We may have heard others give their testimony, and feel like I could never do that, but I wonder what type of healing we could experience if we reveal the things that have kept us bound for so long, and how many people could be helped that may have been through the same or similar things, or how many people could we have saved from the so called fate, if we would have warned them what we had experienced, for some it may be any number of things such as alcohol or drug addiction that runs in the family, Or it may be the incest or molestation that was experienced, or mental or physical abuse or even depression.

How many generational curses could we have prevented from continuing if we would have warned the next generation about the things that our grandparents, parents, siblings, aunts uncles or any other family members had suffered through.

Often families want to keep it behind closed doors, as the saying goes, what happens in this house stays in this house, which is the craziest thing ever, and is only meant to spare them from embarrassment, while all along causing it to fester while keeping it hidden and unknown, and carrying it into every relationship we encounter after.

We hope that not talking about what we’ve or some other family members have been through will save us from embarrassment and shame, while it only causes things to remain as they are.

For we cannot heal what we will not reveal, for some it may mean revealing it to yourself first as a start, and no we cannot go around talking to and everyone, we do have to be selective and choose wisely who we can confide in, and if it is something that will save the next person from abuse, tell it, let it all out because not talking about it will cause the  generational curse to continue.

I’m not saying it will be easy, and you may not get the support you deserve, but keeping silent will hurt you more than it will to reveal it and may break the cycle and help someone else from going through it or help someone who has gone through it to not feel so alone in it.

So often people feel as if they must have done something wrong, or that they must have deserved it, when the truth of the matter is the same thing that was done to you was most likely done to them and their silence caused them to be complicit for the behavior to continue on.

So just remember, you can’t heal what you don’t reveal… For the bible says in John 8:32 And ye shall know the truth and the truth will set you free.

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Forgiveness: The Key to Emotional Freedom

I was thinking about the struggles of forgiveness, it takes me back to a time when it was so difficult to forgive.

When someone had wronged me, I would vow to never forgive them, I would just cut them off altogether or sometimes not speak to them for years, carrying the poison of that unforgiveness with me for years to come.

 Unforgiveness separates families, breaks apart friendships and more importantly, effects your health, your peace and wellbeing, we can carry it around, not even realizing what it’s doing to us internally, how it shapes our opinions, our decisions, our judgements, or our future relationships.

Now of course, is not to say that we in any way absolve what was done to us, or that we continue to have a relationship or stay in a relationship with the person that wronged or hurt us no matter who it is and depending on what it is, oftentimes we have to forgive from a distance.

We can often feel like we need to get revenge, make them suffer or make them feel what we felt, or that not forgiving them is our way of getting them back, not realizing that the forgiveness is for us, not for them, and holding onto it can show up as bitterness and distrust, feelings, as if they just got away with it, and not realizing that only God can fight our battles in ways that we can’t even imagine.

I felt like there was no way I could forgive the person that abused me, stalked me and constantly threatened to take his as well as my life, yet right in the midst of all, I choose to forgive. Even in the midst of wanting him to disappear from the face of the earth. Forgiveness does not mean that we’re going to suddenly forget all of the pain and anguish, or feel better about the situation, it takes sacrifice, but it is the beginning of helping you through that pain, and because of my obedience to forgive, I believe God spared my life.

 As God said in Matthew 6:14-15, if we forgive then God will also forgive us, and if we do not forgive others than we will not be forgiven, which can open the doors for the devil to rack all kinds of havoc in our lives, and who out here do need forgivesness at some time in our lives? Especially when we know, when we’re aware, but continue to make excuses and not forgive.

Someone once said that forgiveness is the key to perfect right action in my life. This proved to be very true in my life. We often feel that they don’t deserve our forgiveness, but what if on the other side of forgiveness lies our protection, our blessings, our deliverance, or our healing, how much would it be worth it to free yourself from the weight that unforgiveness brings? I truly believe that it truly releases you and free’s you it is not easy, you have to surrender, it takes it out of your hands, and put it in the hands of God.

 So, whatever it is forgive even when you feel it’s unforgiveable and when you don’t feel you can you have to rely on God to help you.

Because forgiveness is the key.

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Overcoming Exhaustion: The Impact of Positive Thinking and Adequate Rest

I sat down to write with feelings of complete exhaustion, often in our daily routine we don’t even realize how much we actually do. No wonder we burn out, part of it is our thinking.

When I woke up I decided that I would not be complaining about anything today, If I encounter people around me complaining then I would just counter it with something to be thankful for, and even when those negative thoughts come to mind as they will and always do, I won’t speak them out loud, complaining can really drain your energy  and peace of mind, which is why God said to speak life to your life (Proverbs 18:21),

It’s the same thing we do when were saying affirmations were speaking life to our lives. Have you ever noticed when you’re saying a bunch of negative things about your life, about money, about what may happen, or what’s not going right, that things just continue to go wrong, sometimes we think about what we’re saying, but don’t associate it with what’s taking place in our lives as (Mark 11:23) says you will have what you say.

 It’s not like everything is going to go just the way we like if were not speaking negative things and complaining all the time, but we will notice that things are getting better, and we are feeling better when we’re speaking and believing for good things.

But there are other times when we are simply doing too much, we go on as if we are on automatic pilot not taking the time to rest or a day off or even a few minutes to relax and breathe, we don’t rest as we should and then when our bodies break down, we wonder why.

So, rest when you need to rest, set boundaries when you need to, say no when you need to. It will make all the difference in the world to your mental and physical health.

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Coping with Trauma: Letting Go and Finding Inner Peace

Do you have something in the past that you need to forgive yourself for? Or someone needs to forgive you for? Even if you felt like you were doing the best you could at the time, but you have someone who just won’t let it go? Leaving the past in the past is very often easier said than done.

Survival Mode

 While going through something that I could barely cope with myself, domestic violence, and were barely making it through, basicly just surviving it.

After dealing with traumatic situations, I felt I did pretty well in spite of all that I was dealing with, even though I walked around feeling numb most of the time, after the lack of finding effective therapy, I only got through it with Gods help, never turned to alcohol or drugs just went about life as a single parent taking care of my child the best that I could. As we are going through things it’s often hard to see how it’s affecting others around us, just as it’s hard for them to see how it’s affecting us.

 When we provide for our children, work to keep a roof over their heads, clothes to wear and food to eat, as well as spend quality time with them and all they can see is what they feel we didn’t do, and they proceed to hold it against us often in their adult life, and act as if we need to spend our lives making it up to them, while not even acknowledging what it is we were going through, or anything that we did right back then, are we the really the problem?

Forgiveness

 If it is not in someone else’s heart to forgive and seek out any help that is necessary as an adult in order to heal and let it go, then we will just have to forgive ourselves, pray for them and seek out whatever it is we need to heal, and not allow ourselves to be manipulated or caused to feel guilty about something that has happened in the past that we cannot change.

 I have to continue to remind myself that it is not my responsibility to make someone else happy, but to try my best to understand while taking care of my health and mental wellbeing in the process.

I believe that my ability to forgive right in the midst of what I was going through is the reason I survived, if God can forgive us then who are we to keep holding onto to something, that we need to deal with from our past, it may not be something we can do in our own strength which is why we have to pray and rely on God to help us, and do whatever it is in our power to forgive, heal and move on.

So by asking for guidance from God, not giving up, believing that you can get through it, journaling, meditating or whatever you find that works for you, you can get through it.

                                                                                                                   

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